uncomfortable questions (2)

• You went to the gym, I stayed with the kids. What exactly did you do after I dropped you off? Where were you when I called, 6 hours later? How did you get so close to home so fast? Who did you spend time with, until then?

• I like it that you have so many friends, I don't like it that you have that many friends. I like that you are so, but I hate that you ask so many questions (hate the questions or the way of asking?). I like it that you spend time with your friends, I hate that you'd rather spend time with your friends and not your husband / kids / loved ones. Am I a loved one? Part of them, of that circle? (Apparently not - I don't love you anymore)

• I like that you can talk about many things, I hate it that you're not doing that with me. Although, maybe if you'd do that, I might want to "save" you, so better not. You need therapy and I support it. But still, you seldom came to me. Probably I hate more the fact that I'm not the one come first to. Am I ever going to be the one you ask first?

• I love it that you've become more active and aware regarding your body. I don't like it that you've asked about going keto together, I said yes, yet you started by yourself. Or even worse, with other people. Several? Or was it just one in particular who convinced you? Well, again, it wasn't me.

• You never hugged me with your arms around my neck. Never ran to me happy when we saw each other (at least for longer periods of time), put your arms around my neck and hugged me.
• Rarely, close to never, have you said - let me ask my husband about this. At least not when it really mattered to me.